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Charlie Brumbaugh
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Is it badpoor etiquette to ask fellow backpackers where they have been/where they are going?

I got a comment here that said,

Please omit the "Where have you been?" part of your social interaction. That is going to set me more on edge, not put me at ease. It sounds "stalker-ish", which is especially bad in OP's case where you look ragged.

and before that Strongbad had suggested changing

Where are you headed? to Where have you been?

for basically the same reason.

However, this doesn't match my personal experience at all. In my experience if you are making someone else nervous, they are going to pass you quickly without talking.

On the other hand if you meet someone and are talking its seems very normal to discuss either of the questions especially for finding out what lies ahead if you are going opposite directions.

Is it actually badpoor etiquette to these questions?

Is it bad etiquette to ask fellow backpackers where they have been/where they are going?

I got a comment here that said,

Please omit the "Where have you been?" part of your social interaction. That is going to set me more on edge, not put me at ease. It sounds "stalker-ish", which is especially bad in OP's case where you look ragged.

and before that Strongbad had suggested changing

Where are you headed? to Where have you been?

for basically the same reason.

However, this doesn't match my personal experience at all. In my experience if you are making someone else nervous, they are going to pass you quickly without talking.

On the other hand if you meet someone and are talking its seems very normal to discuss either of the questions especially for finding out what lies ahead if you are going opposite directions.

Is it actually bad etiquette to these questions?

Is it poor etiquette to ask fellow backpackers where they have been/where they are going?

I got a comment here that said,

Please omit the "Where have you been?" part of your social interaction. That is going to set me more on edge, not put me at ease. It sounds "stalker-ish", which is especially bad in OP's case where you look ragged.

and before that Strongbad had suggested changing

Where are you headed? to Where have you been?

for basically the same reason.

However, this doesn't match my personal experience at all. In my experience if you are making someone else nervous, they are going to pass you quickly without talking.

On the other hand if you meet someone and are talking its seems very normal to discuss either of the questions especially for finding out what lies ahead if you are going opposite directions.

Is it actually poor etiquette to these questions?

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Charlie Brumbaugh
Charlie Brumbaugh
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Is it bad etiquette to ask fellow backpackers where they have been/where they are going?

I got a comment here that said,

Please omit the "Where have you been?" part of your social interaction. That is going to set me more on edge, not put me at ease. It sounds "stalker-ish", which is especially bad in OP's case where you look ragged.

and before that Strongbad had suggested changing

Where are you headed? to Where have you been?

for basically the same reason.

However, this doesn't match my personal experience at all. In my experience if you are making someone else nervous, they are going to pass you quickly without talking.

On the other hand if you meet someone and are talking its seems very normal to discuss either of the questions especially for finding out what lies ahead if you are going opposite directions.

Is it actually bad etiquette to these questions?